Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? My Take On This
This is probably an age-old question (whatever that means), but can men and women be just friends? Let me clarify. Can men and women, in fact, be just friends, without any romantic attachments/feelings?
I'm going to answer this question, but keep in mind, it's only my opinion, based on my experiences.
I think that men and women can be just friends. Mind you, this is if they are not married or in religious life. Friendships can still be maintained in these states, but not really close ones, and wisely so.
So I've stated that, and I don't feel that much else needs to be said. Except...
Sometimes the guy may have it in his mind that he wants to get to know you better, in the ulterior motive that he wants to be more than just friends in future. This is not always true, but it is something good to be aware of.
Sometimes, the guy had it in mind all along, and you never even saw it coming. You were platonic friends, and then BOOM! It blew up in your face, and you ended up disappointing his blown-out-of-proportion hopes and dreams for your future, TOGETHER. Um, never saw that one coming, right? Or is that just me?
This can be a delicate issue, and some people may take offense at my even attempting to tackle this question. But why not? I'm sure you've wondered it yourself. On a side note, I once watched a video clip in which women were asked if guys and girls can be just friends. They all said yes. Men were asked the same thing. Know what they said? NO. They said no!
Not every guy is going to have it in his head that you can't be just friends. That's a stereotype if I ever heard one.
Before I dig myself into a deeper hole, I'm going to end this post.
I'm going to answer this question, but keep in mind, it's only my opinion, based on my experiences.
I think that men and women can be just friends. Mind you, this is if they are not married or in religious life. Friendships can still be maintained in these states, but not really close ones, and wisely so.
So I've stated that, and I don't feel that much else needs to be said. Except...
Sometimes the guy may have it in his mind that he wants to get to know you better, in the ulterior motive that he wants to be more than just friends in future. This is not always true, but it is something good to be aware of.
Sometimes, the guy had it in mind all along, and you never even saw it coming. You were platonic friends, and then BOOM! It blew up in your face, and you ended up disappointing his blown-out-of-proportion hopes and dreams for your future, TOGETHER. Um, never saw that one coming, right? Or is that just me?
This can be a delicate issue, and some people may take offense at my even attempting to tackle this question. But why not? I'm sure you've wondered it yourself. On a side note, I once watched a video clip in which women were asked if guys and girls can be just friends. They all said yes. Men were asked the same thing. Know what they said? NO. They said no!
Not every guy is going to have it in his head that you can't be just friends. That's a stereotype if I ever heard one.
Before I dig myself into a deeper hole, I'm going to end this post.
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